Had a lengthy discussion on topic of Life Long Partner with Hing ( if you do not know yet, she is my best friend. best friend is just too general, I would say she is my 知已 ).
When girls' age arrive two dozens, marriage is an unavoidable topic. The discussion is as interesting & stupid as we were talking about having a boyfriend when we were 17.
You will choose which of the following as your husband:-
- A guy with stable income, he guarantees you a stable life if not too wealthy, but your love towards him is not enough to make you the happiest bride.
- A guy you know for 6 months and are passionately in love with, at least at this moment. But he does not offer the security of a stable future.
- A guy whom you had a stable relationship with for 6 years, being together becomes a habit already. He can ensure the relationship is stable, but not the future.
How will you choose if you have to pick one as your husband, a life long partner...
3 comments:
From your way of setting the questions, can see that 'stability' is the main theme that your conception of 'marriage' build on. But just wonders if there's any other elements in a marriage that makes a it a marriage?
One night had a discussion with my boyfriend on marriage (hahaha, kind of weird to discuss marriage with boyfriend =P), but we both agreed that the two must remain independent to each other (especially financially and somehow mentally), and not having any 'power' relationship (like who rely on who more, or who 養 who) between the couple is the pre-requisite to a stable and happy marriage. Ha...kind of married = not yet married. =P
I understand financial and emotional stability are not the only elements in a marriage. As we are talking about a life long relationship, I believe "stability in all way" is a very crucial criterion. At least for me, a turbulent relationship with boyfriend is acceptable, but not the same with husband.
You two are really made for each other if both can uphold the belief independence. ^O^
But I think... the deeper you are in a relationship, the more you love your partner, the more controls you wanna have over him/her. "Control" isn't necessarily negative, but if you think he/she is yours, you just want to own he/she completely.
Love is selfishness, but only at a very high level. Or in a chemistry way, when it has been 'sublimed'.
Agree with you......love is selfishness, but that's unavoidable as long as we are still human beings. Ha, and so, accept your own darkness and weaknesses and make fun of it sometimes, is my most agreed-with attitude towards life.
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That's why I love 'The Hitchhiker's guide to the galaxy' that much. =P
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