Enneagram Type 9 - The Peacemaker

People of this personality type essentially feel a need for peace and harmony. They tend to avoid conflict at all costs, whether it be internal or interpersonal. As the potential for conflict in life is virtually ubiquitous, the Nine's desire to avoid it generally results in some degree of withdrawal from life, and many Nines are, in fact, introverted. Other Nines lead more active, social lives, but nevertheless remain to some to degree "checked out," or not fully involved, as if to insulate themselves from threats to their peace of mind. Most Nines are fairly easy going; they adopt a strategy of "going with the flow." They are generally reliable, sturdy, self-effacing, tolerant and likable individuals.

Nines tend to adopt an optimistic approach to life; they are, for the most part, trusting people who see the best in others; they frequently have a deep seated faith that things will somehow work out. They desire to feel connected, both to other people and to the world at large. They frequently feel most at home in nature and generally make warm and attentive parents.
The Nine's inability to tolerate conflict sometimes translates into an overall conservative approach to change. Change can provoke unpleasant feelings and disrupt the Nine's desire for comfort. Less healthy Nines seem incapable of motivating themselves to move into action and bring about effective change. When change does come however, as it generally will, Nines find that they are usually well able to adapt. They tend to be more resilient than they give themselves credit for.

In fact, Nines tend not to give themselves enough credit in general, and their self-effacing attitude often seems to invite others to take them for granted or to overlook their often significant contributions. This can cause a subterranean anger to build inside the Nine's psyche, which can erupt into consciousness in occasional fits of temper which quickly blow over, but which more often manifests itself in passive agressive footdragging. Being overlooked is often a source of a deep sadness in Nines, a sadness that they scarcely ever give voice to.

Nines frequently mistype themselves as they have a rather diffuse sense of their own identities. This is exacerbated by the fact that Nines often merge with their loved ones and through a process of identification take on the characteristics of those closest to them. Female Nines frequently mistype as Twos, especially if they are the mothers are small children. Nines, however, are self-effacing whereas Twos are quite aware of their own self worth. Nines also mistake themselves for Fours, but Nines tend to avoid negative emotions whereas Fours often exacerbate them. Intellectual Nines, especially males, frequently mistype as Fives, but Fives are intellectually contentious whereas Nines are conciliatory and conflict avoidant.

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Macau Trip 2006

After try out in the karting, I know that I am not suitable for driving... I get too nervous when the motor speeds up and too slow in making turns. It definitely requires 100% concentration on the road, specially when some other cars are passing by yours with a waving hand & staring look. Should I return my stare? or should I focus on driving? but it seems it is so impolite not to return a smile... hmm... my head cannot handle so many things at the same time.

P.S. I was in Macau at the same of last year. (refer to Archive April 2005)

Your Clock

If I have my own renovated house, authority to decorate it with furniture & ornaments & household accessories, wedding planning at year end... I will at least be thrilled by either one of these things.

Starting to understand / feel the effect of human clock works on women, there is no way to deny or avoid. But...let him be the one chosen by your heart, not the one chosen by your clock.

Real Men

A piece of exciting news from you. Our position has been reversed, you were just like me 5 months ago, uncertained but excited.

Your plan means a lot to me... I first made that particular request two years ago on 04 Jan 2004 and asked again last year in July. Thanks for taking me & my request seriously.

Real men fulfilled their promises.

Mongolia

Anyone will join me for the trip?

Wandering

I embarked my wandering trip on Saturday, from Wanchai to Western District, on foot. Though I wanted to try some new routes, I did not deviate from the main road... is that I lost the quest for adventure or I knew nothing is interesting even I walk into the narrow alleys.

Hmm... I missed the time in Maastricht... really missed. The shops are hidden between small roads, sometimes it is difficult to tell whether it is a home or it is a shop or it is both. Sales people are nice and not pushy; merchandises are well displayed. If you are tired, just bought a sausage roll and enjoyed it on the bench before the church. No smoke from cars, no people elbowing, no rushing.

>.< I want to go back...